Archive / Reflections with Riss

RSS feed for this section

Reflections: 10 Tips For a Happier and More Peaceful You

1. CAPITALIZE on your UNIQUENESS! Being unique is beautiful! It sets you apart from everyone else and makes you stand out in a crowd. Why would anyone want to get lost in a crowd? If you have radiant skin… wear hairstyles like buns and drop shoulder tops to showcase your gorgeous skin. Want more of a glow? Try bronzing the high points of your cheeks and collar bones. If you have nicely shaped lips, try wearing pops of lip color that accentuate them. No matter your hair type or texture, everyone’s hair is unique to them and them only! No two people have the EXACT same hair type, color, length, density, porosity, etc. Proudly wear your natural hair in a style that expresses your personality and display to the world your one-of-a-kind beauty! These are just a few of examples of capitalizing on your uniqueness.

2. CLAIM that today is going to be A GREAT DAY…EVERYDAY! The only thing more powerful than the tongue is your thought processes. Don’t worry about things you cannot control. Worse, don’t fear things that haven’t even happened yet or may never happen. Try not the carryover disappointments, fears or sorrows from the past into a new day. Every morning before you start your day literally say, “Today is going to be a great day.” Claim it!!!

head nod

3. RECOGNIZE your GREATNESS! You may not be good at everything, but I am willing to bet that you are good at SOMETHING! Focus in on that talent or passion and develop it. There is greatness within YOU!!

4. IDENTIFY your PURPOSE! There are 4 individual prongs that we can find ourselves in. There is that which we love, that which the world needs, that which we can be paid for and that which we are good at. If you find yourself in the very center of all 4 of these prongs, you have identified your purpose! Living a life that is purpose filled and driven by your passions will without a doubt have positive effects on you.

purpose

5. Be a part of something BIGGER than yourself! More often than not, as a society (and especially as a young modern day woman) we have seemingly become more and more focused on the image of self. Although it is very important to esteem yourself in the highest regard it can also become unhealthy. If we are only focused on ourselves, we could get lost in being aware of what is most important in the world as well as our place in it. Give back; join an organization that gives back to the community in some way. Offer your gifts to the world through service to others. It is ok to want to aim for self-improvement because we all have room to grow until God is finished with us. But it is also important to help others. “We rise by lifting others.” – Robert Ingersoll

6. ACCEPT that you are not perfect! We are our biggest critics. Give yourself a break! Love yourself just as you are. Accept that everyday isn’t going to be a clear skin day and a great hair day. Everyone has those days! Take a moment to remind yourself that you are beautiful and perfectly imperfect no matter what. You are enough! As charismatic women, we may have a tendency to put a lot of unnecessary pressure on ourselves because we are always trying to be better than we were the day before. This is a great characteristic but be sure not to beat yourself up if you misstep and remember that life is a journey full of ups and downs.

7. UNDERSTAND that NOBODY else is perfect! The image of “perfection” is an illusion! Realize that after all the Hollywood money, Photoshop, plastic surgery and Instagram filters people can literally make themselves look like whatever they want to look like. Stop comparing yourself to what you see in the media and on social networks. Additionally, RELAX if you have a tendency to be hyper critical of those around you.cookie

8. Do MORE of what makes you HAPPY! Taking time for yourself is not only a good idea but it is vital to your happiness. As I get older, I have come to realize I have what feels like an absorbent amount of responsibilities. I feel like I have to be everything to everyone almost all the time. I also realize that I put most of these pressures on myself. In the midst of your responsibilities be sure that you incorporate activities that genuinely make YOU happy. This could be anything from meditating in a nice bubble bath with aroma therapy candles and your favorite music or taking the time to get your nails done or finally taking up that painting class! Don’t forget to soak up some ever so often. Natural sunlight releases “feel good” endorphins. The chemicals that the body releases when we get a reasonable dose of Vitamin D from the sun are scientifically proven to enhance mood. Just be sure you apply sunscreen!

Vacation Yoga

9Write down your GOALS! Having an on-going sense of accomplishment does wonders for a happier, more productive life. Write down your short AND long term goals. Check things off of your list as you accomplish these goals and keep them in a place where you can see them and be reminded. Keeping a tangible list of your goals is not only good to remind you to continuously reach to achieve them but also, once you have crossed something off your list you will feel great! I have always and will always make written to do lists. Another tip about goals is to make sure they are SMART goals. S- Specific, M- Measurable, A- Achievable, R- Relevant and T- Time bound.

10. Surround yourself with POSITIVE people!  Believe it or not, some of the world’s most beautiful and talented people are unhappy because they unfortunately have allowed others to tell them (whether directly or indirectly) that they are not enough. You are enough! Cut out the people in your life that drag you down, put you down or always have negative energy! Life is too short to surround yourself with negativity. Positive energy feels sooo good! Just make sure you aren’t that “Negative Nancy”! Be thankful for the things you have and always find the good in every situation. “Your Vibe Attracts Your Tribe… Positive Vibes Only”

good vibes

BONUS TIP: Laugh MORE! All the time… every day! Even at yourself!

Look at you honey…. On your way to a more happier more peaceful you already. 😉
Follow me on FB and IG: @shescharissmatic #SelfLove #ReflectionsWithRiss

Feature: Our Law Firm + Our Feature in BLACK ENTERPRISE

(The following article was written as a press release for Stephens PLLC)

When you think “construction law firm” what comes to mind? How about the picture above? This is what we love about Stephens PLLC, a Houston area construction law boutique that is breaking the mold of minority law firms.

According to the American Bar Association “ABA” only 5% of all licensed attorneys are African American and very few of them practice construction law. In fact, recently the largest organization of construction lawyers in the world, the ABA Forum for Construction Law, came to the realization that only 2.5% of all of its members are African American and launched a diversity initiative to help increase overall diversity.

“I noticed after law school that many of my classmates and other alumni all seemed to practice criminal defense, family law, immigration law, and personal injury. Eventually, I realized I wanted to do something different….” -Kenneth Stephens

Kenneth did just that. In 2015, he began focusing all the firm’s efforts on construction law and it paid off. The firm now represents construction companies throughout Texas and their clients range from small contracting firms to Fortune 100 companies.

Kenneth Stephens, Managing Attorney at Stephens PLLC

Presenting for the National Association of Minority Contractors (NAMC) January 2018

More importantly, those clients are highly satisfied with the work that this firm is performing. Check out a quote from one of their largest contracting clients.

“Kenneth Stephens and his colleagues at Stephens PLLC have been a welcome addition to The Beck Group’s outside counsel group.  The firm is very responsive, creative and hard-working and has developed an understanding of our contracts and business model. Additionally, the firm renders services at a very reasonable fee and is willing to consider flexible fee arrangements. I look forward to expanding The Beck Group’s legal counsel relationship with this firm in 2018.” – Tonya Johannsen The Beck Group

What is most surprising is that Kenneth believes one of the biggest barriers keeping minority law firms from entering this space is their own misguided belief that they will not be able to get work. When discussing the possibility of performing work for large companies, Kenneth would often find that minority firms simply believed they could not get the work and would immediately write the idea off. In fact, one African American actually told Kenneth that he was too small, too young, and too black to play in that pond.

“I am not saying that it is easy to get this kind of work. You have to put the time into learning a very complex body of law, be willing to work your but off and be patient. Sometimes it is tough but if you immediately write yourself off the answer is always no. We’ve been blessed with the ability to develop strong relationships with general counsels, many of whom do not look like us. We’ve also always had the humility to do starter projects because we understood it was a foot in the door and that our performance would make companies want to expand their relationship with us.”

Sometimes you just have to ignore the naysayer and bet on yourself. We did and it’s the best decision we’ve ever made.

Stephens PLLC was recently featured in an article published by the premier business, investing, and wealth-building resource for African Americans.

Check out our feature in BLACK ENTERPRISE !!! Click HERE !!!

Visit our website: www.stephenspllc.com

Thanks for reading. See you soon! Xo – Riss

Carissa Stephens, Sr. Manager of Client Relations at Stephens PLLC

Comment below, Like, Share and Subscribe to this site for updates and exclusive offers!

Contact us for business inquiries and collaborations. We’d love to hear from you!

Learn more ABOUT She’s ChaRISSmatic.

SUBSCRIBE CONTACT

CONNECT:

Facebook: She’s ChaRISSmatic

Instagram: @carissastephens

Twitter: @charissmatic1

Snapchat: @charissmatic1

Travel: Hurricane Harvey + Setting Sail (This is 30 pt. 1)

Hello love. If you follow my blog you know some of my story. You know that this year has been a crazy one for me. This notion holds true all the way up until weeks before my birthday (Sept. 14, 2017). So much has happened in just the past couple of weeks that I need to write a 3-part blog. Fitting… I guess seeing as how this is 30.

To ring in the big 3-0 I had the experience of enduring a natural disaster. Reminiscent of my 21st birthday (during Hurricane Ike) I found myself hunkering down in the midst of Hurricane Harvey.

On the Thursday of the storm we had a “hurricane party”. Daiquiris, music, games and lots of fun. My sister and her boyfriend came over to join me, my husband and my brother -in-law. The 5 of us had a great time! 

The next day… things got REAL. I think we all underestimated the effects of this storm and even took certain warnings to be “alternative facts” as the local news advised. Nothing prepared my city (Houston, Texas) for the massive flood event that took place as a result of Hurricane Harvey. Within a day or two, Hurricane Harvey barreled its way through the gulf coast leaving an unprecedented amount of rain fall to coastal cities and all the way inland to Houston and surrounding areas. By Saturday… the city of Houston was under water.

My brother-in-law was visiting from Georgia and in town for his 21st birthday, ironically. He and my husband were planning to fly out to Vegas to celebrate his 21st which was also the same weekend as the Mayweather fight. Instead he took him to Top Golf. Houston airports were under water and closed for days so obviously they didn’t make it to Vegas. For my brother in-law’s birthday, I cooked a hearty meal and my husband made pancakes for dessert. We so wished we could’ve done more for him but he was so grateful for the little things.

I don’t know which was more terrifying, the tornado warnings which required us to take shelter in our master closet downstairs or watching the flood water rise up my driveway with each passing day of rain. If the house were to flood we would need to be upstairs…but if a tornado were to touch down nearby we would need to be downstairs. The whole ordeal was emotionally draining!

My street

We elevated all the furniture on the first floor as best we could, packed bags, prayed ceaselessly then just hoped for the best while being prepared for the worst.

For 6 days we were trapped inside of the house which was surrounded by water on all sides. By day 5 our food supply was running low so my husband and bro-in-law trudged through the flood waters (in home made rain boots) to the nearest open store to get us some food items. They held it down!

Overhead, was the national guard and on the ground were huge government trucks sent to rescue people who had water rise to dangerous levels in their homes. It was a scene I have never witnessed first hand and will NEVER forget as long as I live. Miraculously… my home experienced no flooding and we did not even lose power, not once… #blessed.

[Press Play Below]

 

Fast forward. After about 6 days of being unable to leave our house, the waters receded enough for us to pack up and leave. My husband, brother-in-law, dog and I journeyed to the north-side of Houston to my parents house. We encountered a couple of close calls on the highway due to high standing water and the drive which would normally take 45 minutes took almost 2 hours.

Being at my parents house that night was overwhelmingly relieving. We enjoyed an amazing home cooked meal then drove out to Dallas the next morning. It was the nearest and safest city we could fly out of. We had to get my bro-in-law back home to GA and were also looking forward to our much needed vacation in the Caribbean which had been booked months before to celebrate my 30th birthday.

We took every pre-caution and called the cruise liner (Carnival). They informed that our trip was still on schedule even despite the tropical storm that is now brewing in the Atlantic.  Tropical storm Irma was still several thousands of miles away at that time and they insured it would not interfere with the travel itinerary. Excitedly, we set sail from the Port of Miami to the Caribbean on Sept. 2….

(Click to continue reading to part 2)

Travel: The Bahamas + Turks & Caicos (This is 30 pt. 2)

The cruise was set for Sept. 2nd – Sept 7th. Just a quick little get away to the islands. What excited me most was that I would be seeing some places on this cruise for the first time; such as Halfmoon Cay Island (which is privately owned by Carnival) and Grand Turk Island in Turks and Caicos.

I felt so fortunate to be able to travel and have a ‘baecation’ especially with all that was going on back home. Hell, I was happy just making it out of the neighborhood! The cruise was EPIC!

We had soooo much fun on that boat!

From the casino, to the eateries, the clubs, the comedy shows, our live karaoke performances, learning about fine art and participating in our first fine art auction…

It’s a celebration!

We were big kids and had a chance to totally unwind!

 

The stops at the different islands, Nassau, Halfmoon Cay and Grand Turk… all had a different appeal to them.

Surprisingly, the waters were super calm and it was smooth sailing during the entire trip!

At our last stop, we could feel the locals in Turks and Caicos getting geared up for Irma which had become a Cat 5 Hurricane and expected to make land fall in the next few days. On the boat, everyone spent that last day at sea heading back to the states, still turnt but also watching the weather very closely.

Finally, we dock back in Miami. We disembark from the boat early Thursday morning and head straight to the airport to see if we can catch an earlier flight back to Dallas. Since no other flights were available, we sat at the airport ALL day anxiously awaiting this flight to fly us back home to safety. Harvey had moved on from Houston and now we are in Florida where Hurricane Irma is expected to sweep through and yield catastrophic damage.

From 10am to 9:30pm we waited. By this time our flight was an hour late due to waiting on the flight crew to arrive from their previous flight. We felt the nervousness creep up our throats as we heard other flights being cancelled while waiting and just prayed ours wouldn’t be.

The airports were like a zoo… literally. Tons of people with their dogs, cats, parakeets, etc! Everyone was flying out and evacuating Florida. Side note: Have you ever been on a plane with a ton of pets? I can’t recall a time that I have. Are there special aircraft for these types of flights? Leave a comment below if you have.

Finally, they board our flight (over an hour late) and he crew make it onto the plane… looking beat down. As I’m waiting on this plane to take off I doze off on my hubby’s shoulder. Several minutes later I am awakened by gasps, sighs, moans, outcries and curse words as a response to the heart wrenching news on the speaker that says, “Unfortunately, folks we have to cancel this flight. We can’t fly out.” (Insert expletives!!! %&@!$%)

The crazy part is, the weather directly overhead hadn’t even really gotten bad yet but apparently the pilot was about to go over his consecutive flight time limit. (Some law that makes it illegal for pilots to fly the plane past a consecutive number of hours.) Spirit Airlines (smh) offered no alternative for all of us that were on that plane to make it home and meanwhile a Cat 5 hurricane is coming straight for us. It seems that due to this technicality of not being able to fly, they should’ve known/ planned ahead and told us sooner so that instead of waiting at the airport all day for this flight that wasn’t even happening, we could’ve tried to book another one! We were sooo close to making it in the clear! Noooo……

Sidenote: Retelling this story exhausts me but writing is therapeutic for me and it is always good to get my thoughts written out. Thanks for reading… keep on reading.

(Click to continue to part 3)…

Travel: Outrunning Hurricane Irma (This is 30 pt. 3)

So with the flight being canceled, I go into semi panic mode. I can no longer hold back emotion – tears run down my face. Everyone is looking crazy. Meanwhile my husband is trying to see if he can find any airline ticket flying ANYWHERE in the U.S. just to get us out of there!

Once I collect myself, I head to the airline’s ticket counter and begin desperately inquiring about what flight we might still be able to catch. NOTHING. No two seats were available and flying out from Ft. Lauderdale, Tampa or Miami to anywhere in the nation. My husband tried to get me out of Florida without securing a flight for himself and that just wasn’t gonna happen. I was not about to leave my husband! We were gonna ride this thing out together in the airport or nearby shelter if we had to!

We somehow managed to find a rental car and decided to drive out of the state from Ft. Lauderdale! We found ourselves on an evacuation route with the other Floridians and stranded vacationers.

Along the way, struggling to find gas stations that hadn’t ran out of gas, seeing a few car accidents, stalled cars.. surviving on chips and red bull, our bond was forged EVEN deeper. (Just when I think it can’t get NO MO REALER! lol) The drive took us about 17 hours to get out of Florida and to New Orleans. Many people headed north to Georgia (which Irma then went there too) so we were happy with our decision to just head west… closer to home. My husband didn’t sleep for 32 hours straight. Our last night of rest was the last day at sea on the cruise days before. Mind you, we partied that night. lol We were EXHAUSTED!!

By the time we got to New Orleans I’m sure we looked like zombies. We were most certainly refugees. Some kind of way, we mustered up the strength to go have dinner with good friends on Canal St. near Bourbon Street. When we got back, we passed out. Next morning, we had the hotel breakfast and went back to sleep. Finally, it was time to head to the airport and catch our flight to Dallas. Once we landed in Dallas, we took an Uber to our car which stayed in the hotel parking lot this whole time THEN… finally, drove to Houston.

Getting back home has never felt so good. The city was looking better but a lot of places were still trying to recover from the flood. I had never seen the sky so clear or felt such cool temperatures in September. We streamed church Sunday morning then slept the rest of the day. This past Monday was my first time seeing the damage Hurricane Harvey caused in my neighborhood.

Hurricane Harvey’s aftermath in a part my neighborhood

I still can’t believe that we went through all that! This is one hell of a way to bring in a birthday. Through it all, I feel EXTREMELY blessed and grateful that God has protected us and our home. Things could have been so much worse. Some of my neighbors have lost everything. I’m grateful for those people and organizations that have provided aid for my fellow Houstonians. God has seen me through so much ya’ll. I am praying for all those who have been affected during this hurricane season (including the beautiful islands we had the chance to visit just days before Hurricane Irma).

Anyway, so that is my crazy story. Lordt. lol I am praying that my 30s are really good to me. I feel like the best is yet to come. Cheers to the next 30!!! Thanks for reading. Peace, Love and Light. – The birthday girl. xo

carissa

Comment below, Like, Share and Subscribe to this site for updates and exclusive offers!

Contact us for business inquiries and collaborations. We’d love to hear from you!

Learn more ABOUT She’s ChaRISSmatic.

SUBSCRIBE CONTACT

CONNECT:

Facebook: She’s ChaRISSmatic

Instagram: @carissastephens

Twitter: @charissmatic1

Snapchat: @charissmatic1

 

Reflections: The Company You Keep

It is so important to surround yourself with positive people who uplift, encourage and inspire you to be the best version of yourself. With everything that I am striving to achieve in life, it becomes more and more apparent that energy drives progress.To be surrounded by ambitious people is important to me because I enjoy listening and sharing my goals and aspirations with people that I know and trust well.
I enjoy listening and sharing for a few reasons.

  1. Listening to others share their ambitions puts me in a position to be helpful. I enjoy helping people and contributing to a cause, project and/or goal when I see great potential in something or someone. This habit is not only genuinely enjoyable for me, but has also led to some amazingly productive conversations, outstanding collaborations, and long-lasting, mutually beneficial relationships.
  2. Sharing my goals with very select individuals that I know and trust well allows me to vocalize my goals. I always write my goals down (and this is advised for anyone) but when my tongue declares my goals aloud… it is powerful. There is POWER in the tongue. Especially when sharing with a like-minded, motivating individual because that energy can be reciprocated. You can tell if the relationship is healthy because you can express without fear of judgment, ridicule or unwarranted criticism from the receiver of your goals, dreams and ambitions.
  3. I’m a conversationalist by nature. lol

As powerful as the tongue is, the mind is that times a MILLION. “A man is but the product of his thoughts. What he thinks, he becomes.” – Gandhi

The ambitious understand, nothing is impossible… everything is reachable. I believe this so much and I am grateful to be a co-founder of an incredible professional networking organization that was founded upon these very principles!LeAunier allows it’s members the opportunity to network with other professionals and go-getters from all sorts of educational and professional backgrounds. This empowering membership based organization brings together a wide variety of people who may have never otherwise met.

Our membership consists of young African American doctors, nurses, lawyers, successful business owners, esteemed educators, city officials, financial analysts, HR professionals, etc, etc. We are a pretty mixed bag and that’s what makes us great! It’s about the collective!

We are establishing and fortifying long-lasting relationships, helping each other get to the next level and having FUN doing so! We believe in balance. Just as hard as we all work, we also like to play. LeAunier offers epic events such as yacht parties, group travel, holiday parties at beautiful venues, wonderful brunches and dinners where we fellowship and discuss our goals over great food, exclusive member only benefits, party bus events, community service events, opportunities for our members to become mentors to youth in the community, a private social platform where we encourage each other almost daily, and so much more!

I recommend that everyone become a part of a network/group that offers professional networking, positive energy, empowering tools, wonderful friendships and of course an opportunity to unwind and have a great time.

CLICK THE IMAGE BELOW to learn more about the organization and how to join!Follow @LeAunier on Facebook and Instagram to make sure you stay informed about our upcoming events!

Thanks for reading! xo

carissa

Comment below, Like, Share and Subscribe to this site for updates and exclusive offers!

Contact us for business inquiries and collaborations. We’d love to hear from you!

Learn more ABOUT She’s ChaRISSmatic.

SUBSCRIBE CONTACT

CONNECT:

Facebook: She’s ChaRISSmatic

Instagram: @carissastephens

Twitter: @charissmatic1

Snapchat: @charissmatic1

Reflections: My 3rd Wedding Anniversary

I married my best friend on this day 3 years ago. It was a BEAUTIFUL sunny Saturday in Houston Texas…Since then, we purchased our first home, have been traveling the world and have been building up our businesses/ the empire. The past three years have been filled with so much laughter and adventure!!!

This love has been so freeing… and I have always felt so empowered by the love God has for me, easily displayed in my husband.Together we have accomplished so much. We aren’t perfect… but there is something so perfect about the love and mercy God shows us daily.

At the start of 2017… something unexpected happened…

We found out we were pregnant.We were excited about our little blessing… and had just found out it was girl!

Then something even more unexpected happened… At 14.5 weeks gestation, we suffered the loss of our first child. For weeks, I mourned. Although I am now at peace with everything, the thought of losing the child I once carried still makes me emotional and probably always will. But let me tell you about how good God is….

He is all powerful and knowing. I trust His timing for my/ our life! I KNOW that ALL things work out for the good of those that believe in Him. Even since the loss, He has been so faithful in showing us that He has not forsaken us. The proof of this would make this blog way too long.

I am since, stronger… wiser… certainly a better woman. My husband and I have grown EVEN CLOSER. And guess what… I am a MOTHER!! My angel baby is with the most high in the most beautiful place. I AM SO GRATEFUL for this PEACE and JOY which surpasses all understanding and I am more than optimistic about the future of our little family than ever.

If you or someone you love has experienced this type of loss, you are not alone.

1 in 4 pregnancies end with the loss of a child.

Most people who have experienced this type of loss will never speak about it – you will never know.

But if I can speak on this, for just a moment… and help someone feel less alone or more comforted, then I am aligned with my purpose, passion and calling. Since I was in college, I knew my mission was to motivate, cultivate and inspire. I cannot only share the glitz, glamour and butterflies with you. I must also share the REAL SH*T. Life can get hard sometimes. The unimaginable can happen to anyone when they least expect it. The human experience involves suffering sometimes. But there would be no sunny days without a cloudy day.

Whatever situation or hardship you may be facing or will face later in life, keep going. Keep the faith. I know we are. Our rainbow baby is coming. Until then we will continue to strive for excellence in all that we do, continue to love EXTRA HARD on each other, and keep smiling!!!

To my hubby… my man crush for LIFE, my ROCK, my BFF, the Clyde to my Bonnie, my biggest motivator… together we can do anything. LOVE YOU!!!

To those reading… I love you too.

Now I’ve gotta run off to celebrate 3 years!!! 🙂 See ya later! xoxo -Riss

SUBSCRIBE

Beyonce Opens Up About Her Miscarriage:

 

My AncestryDNA Results!

*Disclaimer: My AncestryDNA results were updated/ changed after this blog was written. Update summary was later written at the end of this blog.

Hello my love,

For some time now, I have found it fascinating to collect more and more knowledge about my ancestors…who they were and where they came from. I have always grown up knowing that both sets of my grandparents (my mom’s side and my dad’s side) “migrated” from Louisiana to Texas. My ancestors were creole folk who spoke a form of French back in the day until generation after generation, the English language dominated and eventually the creole language became much less spoken in my family. Many of my family members still live in different parts of Louisiana such as Lake Charles, New Iberia, Opelousas, and other areas. Some even still speak creole. I love it there, the food, the music and of course the people!

la-largemap

welcome_to_texas

I would often attempt to discover old photos and gather around my elders to listen to stories of when they were younger, just to get a better picture of my lineage. I never hesitate to ask questions about where my ancestors originated and would dig as deep as I could. From what I could gather from family reunions, old photos and family stories that had been passed down, my ancestors were pretty much French, Native American, African and probably Jamaican… or so I thought. And further, I REALLY wanted to know from what part(s) of Africa my ancestors originated.

family-portrait-of-man-woman-and-small-child two_black_indians

unnamed

My parents and I

I wanted to confirm that every ethnicity that I thought was in my DNA profile since childhood was actually the case. So, my husband and I both purchased AncestryDNA kits a couple of months ago. Finally discovering our true genetic makeup was a mutual interest and something we want to pass on to our children. Once our DNA kits arrived, we excitedly read the instructions (which basically require you to fill up a tube with your saliva) and mailed in our individual saliva samples. It was a pretty easy and straight -forward process!

ancestrydnakit

About a month after mailing in the samples, my husband Kenneth got an email notification that his AncestryDNA results had come in! Our hearts stopped briefly and deep breaths were taken before he opened the email that revealed his DNA makeup. That day we learned that my husband is over 32% Nigerian and 17% Ivory Coast!! The DNA profile was VERY detailed and even indicated the ethnicities that showed up with as little as 1% of his DNA makeup. Overall he was 89% African. Contrary to what many may have expected… no Asian was found in my husband’s DNA profile. lol To find all this out was monumental to say the least! For what I believe are obvious reasons… I got emotional. (Including the fact that I’m naturally dramatic.) As African Americans, it is nearly impossible to trace our roots back to Africa. If it had not been for this test, we would not know!

carissa and kenneth

So since we shipped our results at the exact same time, I expected our results to also come in at the same time. NOPE. It was then that I wondered, “How complicated is my DNA profile?” Tell me why my results came in the day after his and ironically on September 14th… WHICH IS MY BIRTHDAY!! I couldn’t make this up you guys… But without further adieu… here are the results from my AncestryDNA…  Continue Reading →

Watch Our New Show: Married To Business

So I can finally share this news!!! Kenneth and I are sooo excited to announce that we will be shooting a new show called Married to Business!!! We will be sharing our daily lives and you’ll see how we grow in our marriage as we grow our business empire!!!

Our first episode premiered December 20, 2016, at 8pm! This is HUGE you guys… and trust me, you won’t want to miss a beat!! We are asking for your support and need EVERYONE to click below and go SUBSCRIBE to the channel! We have so much in store for you!!!
#M2BIZ #MarriedToBusiness

married to business subscribe

CLICK TO WATCH SEASON 1!!!

Connect with Married To Business:

www.MarriedToBusinessShow.com

Follow M2BIZ On Facebook and Instagram!

www.Facebook.com/MarriedToBusiness

www.Instagram.com/MarriedToBusiness

 

 

 

Reflections: Faith, Fitness, Finances & Freedom

This Crazy Life of Mine

As a serial entrepreneur, I am often asked how I manage my life, health, marriage, friendships, family time and the SEVEN businesses that my household operates. I’m going to be transparent with you and tell you that doing all of this does come with it’s challenges! Delayed gratification is the name of the game when you are a young entrepreneur but the journey is an ADVENTURE for me!

carissa stephens www.shescharissmatic.com

When I am not fully indulged in my purpose and passions, I feel restless and bored. I feel my purpose is helping others whether directly or indirectly… motivating, cultivating and inspiring. I also LOVE creating. I love having a vision and making it come to LIFE. This same principle applies to when I begin a new business venture.

“I am a business nerd”

litnerd

My husband is as well. Building our empire together is something that we enjoy doing and you could catch us doing most of the time. Fortunately for us, some of our business ventures are actually social in nature so we find a great balance with being productive and enjoying our intense work life. Here are some helpful tips and words of wisdom that I have picked up over the years on my journey and want to share with you.

Faith

Keep the FAITH that your dreams can be realized. Have a vision, create a plan, then execute while understanding that worthy things take work… so don’t be afraid to WERK IT! Keep the faith that you can and will achieve what you set out to accomplish. For me personally, understanding the promises that God has for my life and living each moment consciously aware of my full potential carries me through the ups and downs of my journey.

you-become-motivational-coaching-quote

Fitness

I admittedly do not work out as much as I should. I also really love food. Fortunately, staying in reasonably good shape has become easier thanks to my superwoman staple, Greens On-The-Go which give me 8 servings of real fruits and veggies per serving. I am also grateful for the nourishing botanical products that have taken my skincare to the next level while helping me keep it tight, toned and firm. Since I am such a busy body, I am always on the go… so that helps me stay active. When I do plan a work out it usually involves something very fun and recreational like dancing or jogging in the park with my dog. These activities make me happy and relieve stress. When I get back to work after doing recreational activities I can focus even better on the tasks at hand.

natural weight loss carissa stephens

Finances

When your household owns and operates SEVERAL different companies, the need for several of those streams to be relatively PASSIVE income… is REAL! I have also learned that as an entrepreneur, you first have to spend a little money to have the potential to make a lot of money. This concept is actually exciting for me. It is like a game. Having the ability to create revenue on my own time and work from wherever I’d like is great incentive for me to live an entrepreneurial lifestyle plus helps me to feel more “free”.

carissa stephens www.shescharissmatic.com

“Work hard, play hard”

15056425_10102708325980165_1176356916207401905_n

You’ve heard it time and time again but this is what I live by. For all those nights that I am GRINDING and building my businesses instead of watching Scandal, Power, Empire and whatever other show is on because I’m too busy building my OWN Empire, I make up for that by playing tirelessly when it is vacation time. I am either building or vacationing.

download-1

While we are being transparent, I find myself wanting it all… I want the frequent vacations, the house, the family, “fleeked” bank account and the time to actually enjoy the fruits of my labor. This year I came to the realization that my talents, interests and passions are best utilized when I am building my own brands/ companies. With this comes some sacrifice. I had to learn that the key to success and true happiness for me comes from knowing I can have and achieve anything I put my mind to, just not all at once. So I am taking everything one day at a time.

6857-oprah-winfrey-quote-you-can-have-it-all-just-not-all-at-once

Freedom

I feel most free when I am creating, expressing and praising. So I am intentionally designing my life to do more of those things. Entrepreneurship is such a blessing in my life and has become a source of true fulfillment.  I desire to empower, create, express and bring people together. Every step of the way I make sure that God gets the glory. I am excited about so much to come! I hope that you continue on this journey with me… just make sure you buckle your seat belt!

carissa stephens www.shescharissmatic.com

Thanks for reading! See you soon! xo

carissa

Comment below, Like, Share and Subscribe to this site for updates and exclusive offers!

Contact us for business inquiries and collaborations. We’d love to hear from you!

Learn more ABOUT She’s ChaRISSmatic.

HEALTH & WELLNESS

SUBSCRIBE

CONTACT

CONNECT:

Facebook: She’s ChaRISSmatic

Instagram: @carissastephens

Twitter: @charissmatic1

Snapchat: @charissmatic1