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7 Things I Learned During My First Holiday Season as a Mom

So I did it! My first Christmas in the books as a mama! With the season came so much joy and excitement but also so much to do! Most days during the season felt like a juggling act like never before.

With working to launch my new wine brand soon, fulfilling brand collaborations, traveling for work, juggling so many social obligations with family and friends, Christmas shopping and being a present wife and mama… whoo! It was a lot! Not to mention planning for my daughters 1st birthday which is the weekend between Christmas and New Years!!!

We had a huge birthday bash for her! Although I was extremely grateful for the level at which we celebrated her first year of life, the party planning and even day of had me feeling stretched thin and stressed out hunny!

Reflecting on the beauty of the season has me feeling so grateful that everything turned out beautifully but it also has taught me a few things.

Here are 7 things I learned from my first holiday season as a new mama:

1) Get each day started early. The days go by fast, it gets dark early and it’s best to have more time for relaxation in the evening.

2) Double check accuracy of mailing addresses and go to the post office early. I sent a gift to the wrong address and someone even sent me a card to the wrong address. Moral of the story, always confirm addresses before shipping off gifts or greeting cards.

3) The Children’s Museum is lit! We were invited to join my good friend and her son for a play date and I felt like a kid again in that place! Kammy got pics with Santa, we made ginger bread men and explored so many fun things!

4) Always anticipate plus ones… twos and three’s to your event and plan accordingly. We almost took major Ls with headcount at my daughter’s birthday party because our venue was very strict. Fortunately, everything worked out and she got to be celebrated by so many family members and friends.

5) Kids will be kids. They tear shit up. The toddlers tore up the play area I had at my daughter’s birthday party. Also, with my child’s birthday being so close to Christmas, I realized some of her gifts can be stored away and opened gradually. Kids have short attention spans so this way they are discovering new things overtime verses all at once.

6) Less is more. Don’t overload yourself and ask for help. Don’t try to be Martha Stewart, Misses Claus and Betty Crocker all at once. Also, my daughter won’t have another large scale birthday party for years to come unless she expresses that she wants one… and maybe not even then. It’s too much. lol

7. Wine down… often. Wine just makes everything better. It help take the edge off your day so you can de-stress. When I’ve had a very full and productive day, I often like to treat myself to a glass of wine while relaxing at home. Even better with a home cooked meal followed by Christmas movies. Try my wine when it becomes available direct to consumer on March 21st. Order here: www.purnoirewines.com

Here’s to a very memorable holiday season in the books and to a prosperous new year for all!

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5 Things Motherhood Has Taught Me About Myself

Last weekend I celebrated my 32nd birthday. A new year of life always brings much reflection. I realized how much I’ve learned about myself from my last birthday to now. A lot has changed in my life recently, thus changing how I operate in certain ways. Bringing my daughter, Kamara, into the world last year has helped me to learn a great deal about myself. Becoming a mom has clarified many aspects of my personality and perception of the world. Here are 5 things motherhood has taught me about myself.

I’m extremely protective. As a big sister, I’ve always known that I was protective to a certain extent. Even with my friends I’m somewhat protective. Since becoming someone’s mother, my need to protect is on a whole ‘notha level! At almost 9 months, my daughter is supremely ambitious. She is standing on her own, scaling the ottoman in my living room, expressing a curiosity towards the doggy door and reaching for EVERYTHING! I know I need to let her explore a bit, even stumble and fall… but her gentle topples and shaky stance rocks me to my core! lol I watch her like a hawk during playtime and try as hard as I can to prevent her from hurting herself. The same holds true for my view towards her contact with germs. I hate feeling like she’s exposed to dangers seen and unseen. She’s a tough cookie though so I’m trying not to be so type A when it comes to this.

I love to plan ahead but can thrive on the fly. The Virgo in me loves and frankly demands planning ahead. I need things calendared, to-do lists prioritized by level of importance and a general forecast for the weeks and months ahead. Since becoming a mom, this has in some ways heightened. Mostly due to the fact that I am now responsible for another human and I can’t just get up and go wherever I want to all the time. It takes a lot to make arrangements for the entire or get everyone situated for an activity. Not to mention sometimes calling in my sitter (ie. Mama Pam who is living her BEST retired life and tends to be booked and busy herself!) My house is child proofed and looks a lot like a daycare most of the time so random pop ups make me uncomfortable. However, I try to remain as flexible as possible because variety is the spice of life. I am still open to spontaneous flights of fancy and when called to it, I rise to the occasion.

I’m resilient AF. I have been through a few challenging yet defining moments in my life, but my JOURNEY to motherhood takes the cake. Having endured a pregnancy loss in the past, followed by a challenging pregnancy that left me in the hospital for three months and delivering via an emergency c-section, showed me that I am very strong willed and can handle whatever life throws at me. Did I mention I was admitted back to the hospital postpartum AFTER bringing my baby home?! I stayed overnight with my newborn and husband in the same room that I was an antepartum patient in one night as medical staff monitored my blood pressure because my body was retaining water like a puffer fish. This is caused my blood pressure to become elevated to the point of concern. Through it all, I give God the glory for an ultimately favorable outcome and for molding me through my experience. Of course I had my moments… but true to form, I maintained my joyousness and optimism throughout the most challenging time of my life. “God is with her, she cannot fail.”

I look on the bright side of everything. With my testimony above, I can honestly say that so much good came out of my journey to motherhood. My faith was strengthened and so was my marriage. I got to really see the stuff my relationship was made of. I got to see who around me was really supportive and I got to understand and better appreciate my own strength. I tried to find reasons to laugh and express gratitude as often as possible throughout. My friend said to me jokingly the other day, “Girl, it could be the end of days and you’ll be like – well we might as well enjoy it!” I look at each day as such a blessing, more than ever before. I’ll never take the way the sun feels on my face for granted because I know what it feels like to not have that feeling for three months straight. Watching the seasons change is probably one of the most subtle yet rewarding observations of nature in our human experience. I was in the hospital on this day (first day of fall) last year. If you know me, you know I’ve always been as festive as they come. Oh but now!…

I absolutely love being in my home. I have been intentional about creating a home space with my husband that is rooted in peace, love and joy. We have achieved such a space and I am very grateful for that. I don’t get restless or bored at home. I couldn’t say this about 6 or 7 years ago. Home feels so good. I’m able to entertain and be entertained in my home beyond what I could’ve imagined prior. I used to be such a busy body! I’m so glad I’ve matured to appreciate the little things like cuddling up under a blanket with my sweet little family to enjoy a movie or drinking coffee from my breakfast table while writing for this blog and enjoying the natural sunlight that enters my home. Or sitting in my backyard on the patio set and watching the sun set over our lake while enjoying a glass of wine. These have all become weekly objectives that I love.

Motherhood is everything I dreamed of and more. It has made me a better person. It brings and indescribable amount of love and joy into my heart and home.

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